Have you been so tired you can't seem to explain why? Less making a visit from a doctor, you've googled reasons after reasons after reasons why you are so exhausted? You've found reasons such as sleep deprivation, or sleeping too much, poor health nutrition, not enough vitamins, too many vitamins, not enough vitamins, no exercise, too much exercise, too much work, sitting down too much, not enough sunlight, too much sunlight. Pretty much any reason you can think of, I’ve found it online.

Now, I’m no medical doctor or anything, but having visited MY doctor quite a few times for the past few years, and done a few tests by order of my various doctors, having taken out a couple of organs and couple more procedures done, only to figure out that one of my problems was gluten sensitivity. It made me feel sluggish, heavy, and tired and I overload on foods and snacks, and having given up gluten made it easier on my digestion and gave me more energy without having to add anything else on my diet or hit the gym. Gluten, who knew right. It obviously was more than just that. But bottom line was fixing my digestion, helped give me more energy to do things I needed to get done.

Another reason I learned was to not lay down in bed 2-3 hours after a meal, especially at night, before bed. Simple, common-sense thing right. But my husband and I used to watch movies right after dinner, either on the bed or couch, and somewhere in the middle of the movie, we start slouching, and we blend into the sofa or the bed… and it’s a horrible habit. The acids in your tummy starts to rise and goes back up your throat, and as someone who has asthma, its quite worse because as the acids pushes back up, it pushes through the diaphragm and the lungs, which sometimes can make me feel like I can’t breathe, and for me, it makes me feel like I’m having an asthma attack, or makes me confused between an asthma attach or a heart burn attack.

Another time I went to the doctor for a routine asthma checkup only to end up at the ER for a panic attack. That visit changed a lot. It wasn’t only the physical issues, it wasn’t the medical issues I was struggling with. I soon learned that I have been battling certain mental issues for quite a while that added to my exhaustion. That led to my challenges to even get up in the morning.

It wasn’t only my trouble sleeping, it wasn’t only my diet, or my minimal physical activity, although they all did play a part in that, but what took a while to diagnose or figure out was my failing mental health.

Nowadays we’ve all just been living in constant exhaustion. At least, that’s what I’ve noticed, what what I believe. I see one of my sisters throwing herself at work for hours on end, and I can only see her for like 10 minutes every few months, while she passes by my house to drop something off, while she sits in her car… and she lives like 3 blocks away.

I recently got in touch with a high school friend, and we were trying to schedule lunch. The first two weeks did not work for either of us because we had both weekends booked. The third weekend she has something scheduled, the following fourth weekend, I had something booked on that Saturday, and she has work on that Sunday. We were finally able to schedule something that week but on a Friday. All this was a month away from when we talked. It’s just so hard to schedule anything just to see an old friend.

Another friend that I saw over the summer and our kids wanted to have a play date, and we have not managed to schedule another one. Our schedules just don’t seem to match and having to follow our kids’ routine and activities makes it seem impossible.

All that, on top of the other things that needs to be completed at home, at work, the volunteer stuff you do for your kids’ school and activities. It’s a miracle no one has passed out from exhaustion yet.

The leader from one of my sons’ activities actually said there needs to be some kind of change and that person said she can’t keep leading all the activities. People need to help and we all need to take turns. Which I agree. I actually consulted with another group, and that’s what they do. They do stations and committees to help each other out, and that seems to be a more productive and efficient way to do things than having one leader plan all the activities and do all of it.

There are days when I look at my schedule and I’m already exhausted. I just want to go back to bed and forget everything. Do you feel that way sometimes? What do you? How do go on? Share your thoughts below.

What’s my bottom line?

I'm not here to give answers. [At least not yet, that’s not for this post] I'm here to empathize. I really wish I had answers because after months, and years of constantly trying to figure out why I'm so tired some days more than others is, frankly, exhausting.

If only there was a clear answer as to why one person is more tired than the other, we would all be "cured." But that's the thing. It's not. We are all different. We are all unique. With different issues. Different body types, different medical problems, or lack thereof. Different maladies and injuries, different situations, different financial and economic conditions, different backgrounds, different everything.

I just want to share that you are not alone. You will never be alone.

We may all be different, but the one thing we have in common is all of us can get through this.

I also want to remind you to ask for help. There is a whole community out there who is willing to help. All you need to do is to learn to ask. Just ask.

Never give up on yourself. There is always hope.